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My husband (m35) had approached me (f33) saying he doesnt believe im prioritising him on mothers day because I want to go down and spend mothers day with my mother this year. The last two mothers days I spend it at home with my husband and son (2.5yo) together, which he denies I did even though I know I did because my mum called and she understood with a baby I couldn't travel to see her.
My son would be coming with me as he doesnt really look after him as I am a SAHM. Hes known for weeks as I put my usual go away dates on a white board so he knows when and how long we are staying there. Mum lives over 3 hrs away so sometimes I stay anywhere from 3 nights to 2 nights depending on when I can leave to go see my family.
It's been a struggle as I dont get to see my family often and he doesnt like them. Makes no effort for them but hates when I try and see them. Because hes argued with me so much about seeing them I have only been able to visit once a month for a few nights. Mostly the two nights. I leave a saturday and come home Monday, or a Friday and come home Sunday because hes made it increasingly difficult for me. So not to upset him further I tell my fmaily I just cant see them often.
Now tonight hes approached me saying how he beilves its unfair and its not normal for a wife to leave her husband on mothers day and spend it away. I got upset I didnt yell but I said it's not, I've been here the last two and this year id like to see my mum. He said I was lying about being here and I reminded him last year he made me breakfast and mum rang me that day so we spoke on the phone.
Hes trying to tell me I dont prioterise my family, but i have been here and im here all the time. When hes upset with me he chooses not to spend time with his son and uses the excuse I dont want him around. Which is just an excuse because when he is moody he doesnt put in the effort to spend time with him and just agues with me about not caring about him and wanting to be with him.
Im at a loss, I do not beilve I am doing anything wrong wanting to see my own mother on mothers day.
He doesnt see his mother has she past away when he was 7yo. His dad also past away befor we found out I was pregnant. So yes he does spent some time alone when I see my fmaily but seeing as over the last 23 months I've only been able to see them once each month I think im being quite reasonable when I say hes being a POS at this time to me.