Why can't I progress past first dates?
Hi I'm 25M in a major metro area.
I go on a lot of first dates, was averaging 1-2 a week for a while but it has recently gone up since I've optimized my profile (have been using hinge more seriously since Jan).
The main problem I've had is that I'm not really getting anywhere past first date. I've been on a few the past week and I feel like I'll try to flirt and it'll get touchy, but it never gets to anything substantial.
For example, I went on this one date last week where we chatted and walked a lot and I was a bit touchy with her and she was receptive to everything I did and ended with a pretty big hug between us, but she's been very confusing with her responses lately and I can't tell if she's interested or not. I'm going to assume probably not since she texts me less now and it is shorter, but Idk.
I also go on other dates where we have a good chat, but it never gets past that.
I wouldn't normally complain, but I really want like a long term girlfriend/partner and I don't want to keep going on first dates forever. I meet people outside of the app and through and friends too, so hopefully I have more success there.
However, I'm wondering if it's just that I present myself well on the apps but in person, I'm too nerdy/ADHDy? I don't want to change who I am, but maybe I have accept I'll probably be alone forever lol.