u/Extension_Square_690

hello healthy gamers!! im new to the community but i would like some advice. today i had a really bad argument with my partner, and its the kind where i was actually the guilty party. i.e. stalling, lying, half truths, etc. i promised my partner that i would be better, and they themself have a great amount of emotional intelligence as an infp.
i am learning to accept and ask for help, and be more specific about the help i need. but i have also learned that in the past i am prone to breaking my promises. my question is, how do i continuously keep hold of my promise and learn to accept myself, after all the horrible things i ended up doing to them.
i want to learn how to have healthy motivations and intentions. if anyone has any advice on this, even dr. k, i would greatly appreciate it. thank u, and hope u have a good morning/day/night