u/Extension_Peace_5262 — reddlx

Hi. In need of advice and don’t know if I am being played or this really happens as it has to me. My husband was self loathing several years ago and had a 5 month long affair with a younger female co worker. I watched him spiral for months prior to the affair, he just became a shitty person to everyone around him. The affair came out via her husband seeing text messages from my husband. The affair stopped and we separated for a while. He went to therapy, we went to therapy, and he felt like a massive piece of shit for hurting his family ( 3 girls) and me. We reunited and sex was back and great. Until about year post affair. It’s been about 3 years of hardly any sex, he somehow now has pretty severe ED, has seen Drs and therapist and no one can help him. Meanwhile it is a massive mind fuck for me. Part of our affair recovery was to have a healthy sex life and no secrets. Not only is there no sex but he won’t engage in any kind of sexual activity or respond to my asking over and over for some kind of intimacy. Am I being played or does this shit really happen. I know he loves me and the kids, we have been together 20 years.