u/Extension-Angle9528

Rishta Community for Pakistani Muslim Residents/Fellows/Physicians 🤍
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Rishta Community for Pakistani Muslim Residents/Fellows/Physicians 🤍

Trying to build a small community/subgroup for people in medicine looking for meaningful connections in a respectful way. If enough people are interested, we can make a separate community chat/group from responses.

Feel free to fill or share:

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u/Extension-Angle9528 — 4 days ago

Salam guys, I feel like having no real experience in dating world can really come as a disadvantage sometimes. I have been speaking to a guy for past two years now; and more recently we have been having a lot of lows because I want more clarity of where this is headed. I feel like I’m asking all the right questions, and he doesn’t have the capacity to fulfill them. He doesn’t follow through with his word either which makes me upset. His energy overall has switched over. He’s an engineer and does door to door sales to make extra money to build a home for his family. I’m a physician in training, and moving countries in less than a month.

- I asked him for more clarity on when he would approach my parents, he would constantly ignore this question and started to say not until he owns the roof he brings me under
(and when I would ask okay, so which state? Like give me more info, a timeline, he would just not give me clarity)

- he would keep saying I’ll call you tomorrow and never actually follows through

- I have asked him multiple times for small gestures like sending flowers, but he doesn’t care for it

- I think as the only son, he has a lot of expectations and responsibilities but I feel like in my head I really thought he was the one.

More recently, he has cut all contact with no clear explanation and my dumbass still texts. It’s so hurtful. If someone doesn’t have the capacity to love; then why play with someone’s feelings?

I have been trying to involve family since Nov/Dec of last year and instead he keeps making excuses, oh my dad’s out of country or blah blah.

I just feel upset that I wasted my time over something that was not meant for me.

Alhamdulillah though. May be Allah has protected me on the long run.

May Allah provide us with rizq in the form of love from our spouses.

For context: he was a year younger to me

Ya’ll help me get over him, it truly aches and breaks my heart to see him do this to me. Was I too much?

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u/Extension-Angle9528 — 8 days ago

guys, I feel like idk what to do with my downtime anymore lol. I need some fun hobby ideas please

I feel like last 3 years my life has been revolving around medicine only and now I need a breather and want to do fun things like:

- content creation?

- girls trip?

- I want to work on healthy lifestyle: diet + work out

- find a good man to marry iA

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u/Extension-Angle9528 — 17 days ago