u/Explanation-Spare

I’ve been sexting with this woman I met on a dating app. I’m a virgin, and this is my first time ever being openly sexual with someone else. And it’s really hot and I’m drawn to what she says she’ll do to me. I’ve never actually thought I’d love being dominated and told what to do until now. Being mostly huge my whole life, it’s hard to imagine to.

But like now I don’t really know? I can’t tell if she’s AI or a scammer, and I don’t want to keep sending nudes if she is. She doesn’t really tell me what she wants when I try to engage, has only sent me one photo, and she says she’s getting a masters in Physical Therapy but she makes mistakes a lot on grammar. I asked her if she was real and she got mad at me.

Any advice?

i got asked out to a date by someone i met on a dating app. it was my first date EVER and i was really out of my comfort zone, but i wanted to see her so i decided to go through with it. we discuss about what we’ll do and she told me she knows a spot to see the sunset, and i suggested dinner and she said yes. i got dressed up so nicely, and since she was picking me up, i didn’t want to start off the date with me just being a leech 24/7, so i got her some gifts.

but then here’s the kicker 🙄 when she pulled up to my house, she told me she only has FOUR dollars to her name and didn’t know if it was possible for us to get dinner 😭 i got all dressed up and didn’t eat for dinner because i was under the impression that we would. feeling awkward that we’d just essentially drive around, i offered to foot the bill.

she shows me the spot and it’s literally at a gas station. we head to dinner and i had to step out twice for an important call i couldn’t miss, and when i got back she ate most of our food. 🫩 then her bsf called her and she drove us to a place to play pool, and it literally turned into a friend group hangout then. i literally felt so singled out and out of my element since i don’t know how to play pool. i learned too that it was a dollar per game, and she told me the night prior to our date, she was up all night playing games and smoking weed - so i’m assuming she blew through her money with the knowledge we were going on a date. again, SHE ASKED ME OUT!! not me.

she drove me home soon after because i had a shift the next morning and i was just not having fun, but she ended up asking for food to-go too???? 😭

but after that, she texted me that she had fun and all that nonsense. we keep talking for a few days but then she got all dry. so i asked her “Hey, I don’t want us feeling like we have to keep the conversation going. If you feel like this isn’t for you, just let me know.” i had an urge to do that because she mentioned during our date that this was the first time she went out with a woman, and i didn’t know if she was just looking for a cue to leave.

she texted me back and said she wanted to keep going, she wanted to schedule a 2nd date, and that she was going to give me gifts too. so i was like okay sure. but then she left me on delivered twice in a row (two days in a row) even though she was online, and last night she ended up hard launching a girlfriend!!!!!! isn’t that SOO fun yall…

first date aside i’ve just been having bad luck in general 😭😭 each to their own but i cannot trust myself to use any substances with strangers i don’t know, and i’m not really into alternative stuff - i just happen to be queer, and i think people think that i’m lame because of that. i don’t necessarily want myself to change but it’s been so frustrating trying to get into the dating scene with my prospects. idk what to do and i would love some insights.