Need different POV to my situation
TL;DR let me be honest and blunt with my words, bear with me.
i am married M32 working in a MNC as mechanical design manager, now earning decent if compared to mechanical guys. I am educated enough to know how to behave and how to present myself. while i am living in a joint family, where i am the major contributor when there are 10 members. most of them do not earn and contribute. i got married in feb 2020 to a qualified girl but her behavior was unbearable by me and my family as we are coming a village in Haryana we have our customs to follow, that was negotiable but behaving badly and not controlling what she is saying to elders, and misbehaving with me was the cause for our separation, while i was not earning much like 30k a month. and then i had to take a debt of 15L to just get over the marriage. i scaled myself and started earning better than before along with masters in design. i married again and with a girl who is different in cast (does not matter), she comes from a family who used to be poor but now they are upper middle class and she have gone through transition. but all this happened recently like 7-8 years ago. she was also divorcee. and we did not demand anything as we wanted girl only. i had changed my mind after the first divorce that i will bear with certain things just to carry my relation. but as we went forward with the relation after marriage, things started changing. actually the major problem is that she can not keep her mouth shut and tends to speak badly over small things, whenever i tried to talk her down, she starts crying and be like as she did not do anything wrong. now we have a child as well, growing strong after an year of his birth. now things are like i am the sole provider and do not keep my hands short for the needs. she did few things because of which my mother has to be admitted to hospital for brain hammer age, she could have paralyzed. yet she is not keeping things quite. her family seems way better than her. now things are like i want to buy my own house, and things are falling apart. my mother do not wants to live with her and she always misbehaves whings things goes something out of her way. i have already talked with her parents but nothing changed. my mother is totally dependent on me. there are major things which i can not write here. just understand like i can not leave my mother to anyone else. while, i do not want to break the relation as well. but she becomes unbearable and the physical intimacy is almost gone between us. i want end to these every day kalesh so that my son is not affected beacuse of that. she is intolerable almost all times....