u/Expert-Arrival5517

Assalamuaikum everyone, I hope your all well

I was just having a random 3am thought which I would like to share with you guys.

I feel like I want Allah to grant me someone with the characteristics of my mum. I honestly think she is the best woman I know, im not a mummy boys trust me im just saying this genuinely.

In terms of intelligence and understanding as well as being a strong person. I guess when my mum got married she went through some emotional abuse from my father (never physical though) which was mainly down to sending money to back home, she still put us first and coped by praying to Allah. Alhamdullilah my dad has always been a good father and realised his mistakes and is much better. By strong here, I dont mean being able to withstand abuse , but you guys get what I mean.

But it does really make me think, I feel like finding someone with characteristics like my mum will be harder. im not sure how to explain it but yeah i feel like my mum is exceptional when it comes to certain characteristics.

assalamualikum guys, random question

how do you guys plan to spoil your wife when she comes?

I was thinking maybe like a wardrobe shelf full of leopard hijabs and a new abaya every month

will probably delete this post ngl

assalamualikum guys, random question

how do you guys plan to spoil your wife when she comes?

I was thinking maybe like a wardrobe shelf full of leopard hijabs and a new abaya every month

will probably delete this post ngl

Assalamualikum everyone, I hope you are all well.

So lately the idea of marriage has been brought up alot in this subreddit and others and so i would like to give my thoughts as a 21 year old whose has thought about life recently.

So just last week, one of my friends ( also 21) father passed away and it really got me thinking, weirdly enough about marriage.

I feel like saying you want to get married is something thats easier said than done. I will explain but trust me ive thought about it many times and I still do. I even keep a diary for her when she does come into my life ( a bit cringe i know).

The main point though, is that after contemplating my friends fathers death, it made me ask the question to myself.

If i was to die TODAY, what would i have left for my parents and family to go by?

I will be honest, thinking of this answer left me kind of sad because from my heart I knew it was NOTHING.

Sure, i have some achievements spiritually and academically but I haven't achieved enough for my family.

To all the brothers out there, if our fathers were to pass away tomorrow, would you be able to run the family and provide?

If the answer is no, then that means you have some work to do. I know for me the answer is no and so il admit it.

That said, its okay to think about marriage and want it, but realise there's a right time for everything and may that time come soon for each and every one of us inshaAllah.

JazakaAllah khair for letting me talk about the thoughts ive had for the past week.

Assalamualikum everyone, I hope you are all well.

So lately the idea of marriage has been brought up alot in this subreddit and others and so i would like to give my thoughts as a 21 year old whose has thought about life recently.

So just last week, one of my friends ( also 21) father passed away and it really got me thinking, weirdly enough about marriage.

I feel like saying you want to get married is something thats easier said than done. I will explain but trust me ive thought about it many times and I still do. I even keep a diary for her when she does come into my life ( a bit cringe i know).

The main point though, is that after contemplating my friends fathers death, it made me ask the question to myself.

If i was to die TODAY, what would i have left for my parents and family to go by?

I will be honest, thinking of this answer left me kind of sad because from my heart I knew it was NOTHING.

Sure, i have some achievements spiritually and academically but I haven't achieved enough for my family.

To all the brothers out there, if our fathers were to pass away tomorrow, would you be able to run the family and provide?

If the answer is no, then that means you have some work to do. I know for me the answer is no and so il admit it.

That said, its okay to think about marriage and want it, but realise there's a right time for everything and may that time come soon for each and every one of us inshaAllah.

JazakaAllah khair for letting me talk about the thoughts ive had for the past week.