u/ExpensiveBoss1767

All I want from this post is ANY modifications to the text, ways to not burn a bridge but still be clear that I don’t want to be together, and just any opinions you have. Thank you.
This is a text message I am thinking of sending to my boyfriend of 10 months** **(talking a year in February) i truly just don’t have feelings for him anymore. He is a coworker of mine however we don’t work super closely unless we go out of our way to see each other.
As of maybe the end of this month he is moving to a different shift (currently we work Saturday- Thursday;nights, he rotates Saturdays. He will be working Wednesday-Friday rotating Saturdays;nights) This is not why i decided to break up with him now. I have been thing about it for a few months but I have put it off because I truly will miss his friendship.
I know I don’t need a relationship right now because I’m so irritated at him when he double texts me after an hour “oh so you hate me” I don’t know why that makes me so mad?? To me he seems so aggressively needy even though I feel like in past relationships I have been the same way..?
I have talked to him about all of this many times in the last year but nothing has changed at all. I have realized the way I act when I am in a relationship that I am happy in is completely different than the one I am in now.
I find myself being so annoyed when he asked to come over or to hang out by ourselves in general. I’m so happy to hang out in a group of friends but to me he’s so boring and I hate saying that because he only acts that way the it’s just us. I will ask him how is day was he will say “good” or “long” but in a group of all his friends; they will ask the same thing and all of a sudden he LOVES to elaborate. I’ve asked him about this as well he brushes me off or doesn’t see what I’m talking about and acts confused.
The text !!!
I have to be honest, I have not been happy lately. I feel that we are not compatible in ways that benefit us both. When I am talking to you, you are constantly looking at your phone (mostly TikTok) and laughing at a video. When I ask you if you were listening you seem to “snap out of it” and only give one word answers only to go right back to it. Active listening is eye contact, confirming communication, reiterating parts of conversation etc.
Ive cooked for you so much but you would refuse to do the dishes or even offer/ or get annoyed with me when I ask you to take out the trash.
I don’t feel like we are s*xually compatible.
This doesn’t have anything to do with you I think you might just be a low effort type of person or we don’t have the same desires (making out)
It could be a product of I just don’t feel like we are meant to be so I’m unintentionally shunning youTo me our relationship has always felt more like a friendship where we sometimes have s*x I truly need to learn to be by myself.
I have gotten into relationships one after another for years and it’s taken a toll on me. I don’t want to spend time with friends or family because I have a boyfriend. I have a tendency to prioritize a relationship that is fun but may not last long (boyfriends) over a relationship(s) that have been in my life so long because they are comfortable and I want to try to get over that. I want to make more friends that are my friends and not just people that are my friends because they are someone else’s / your friend.
I have love for you just not in the same sense that you do. You are a great person but we vibe more like friends to me.
I was going to bring this up sooner but i figured since you would probably be switching shifts it would be better to wait to make sure so we know if we will be around each other a lot or not. (Not that I just wouldn’t have said anything but i wanted to take everything into consideration) I have love for you, your family, and your friends and I hope this won’t make anyone upset. You didn’t do anything wrong I just don’t think we are meant to be. I truly do care for you. I’ve been feeling this way for a while and I know you’ve been having a hard time but I feel like dragging it on would make it so much worse in the end. Thank you for being in my life I am grateful to have know you, your family and friends; you are all wonderful people and I wish everyone the best.