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I’m currently studying The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro for a course, and it’s made me think a lot about how people choose between career/duty and personal fulfillment.

In the novel, the main character dedicates his entire life to his work and identity, and only later realizes he may have sacrificed too much of his personal life. It feels like an extreme example, but I’m starting to wonder how different it really is from today.

I’m at a point where I’m thinking seriously about future education and career paths, and I keep running into the same question: how much should you prioritize stability, income, and long-term “success” vs actually enjoying your life and relationships along the way?

A few things I’m curious about:

• How do you decide when a career path is “worth it,” especially if it demands a lot from you?
• Do people actually regret prioritizing work long-term, or is that more of a theoretical concern?
• Is work-life balance something you actively plan for, or does it just depend on your situation?
• Do you think people today really have more freedom to choose differently than in the past, or just different kinds of pressure?

My current view is that a lot of people still end up prioritizing work, whether it’s out of necessity, ambition, or just expectations, but I’m not sure where the line is between reasonable commitment and sacrificing too much.

I’d be interested in hearing different perspectives, especially from people who have already made these kinds of decisions.

I’m reading The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro for a school assignment, and it got me thinking about something that feels very relevant today: the balance between work (or duty) and personal life.

In the novel, the main character dedicates his entire life to his job and professional role, to the point where he avoids personal relationships and emotional fulfillment. Only later does he start to reflect on whether that was the right choice.

It made me wonder how this applies today. A lot of people still seem to prioritize career success, stability, or expectations (from society, family, etc.) over their own happiness or personal life.

So I’m curious how people here see this:

• Do you think prioritizing work over personal life is still necessary in today’s world, or is it more of a social expectation we’ve just accepted?
• Have you ever chosen work over something personal (relationships, hobbies, etc.), and do you regret it or not?
• Do you think people today actually have more freedom to choose differently, or just different kinds of pressure?

I’m especially interested in hearing different perspectives, even if you disagree with the idea that work is “overvalued.”

Thank you for your opinions!