u/Expensive-Calendar37

Rafflesia Seduction(3), Graydle Slime Jr.(3), Maiden in Love(3), Neo-Spacian Dark Panther(2), Graydle Alligator(3), Graydle Cobra(3), Graydle Eagle(3), Thunder King, the Lightningstrike Kaiju(3), Time-Tearing Morganite(3), Blockout Curtain(3), Forbidden Chalice(3), Lost Wind(3), Infinite Impermanence(3), Face-Off(3), Old Entity Hastorr(2), Graydle Dragon(2), Number 26: Spaceway Octobypass(2). The rest of the extra deck is stuff I already had that I just slapped in there and I don't really use.

Hello all.

My boyfriend(M20) is a very non-emotional guy. He doesn’t really cry or get upset or really much of anything. He struggles to outwardly express what he does feel and just wasn’t raised to really express genuine or thoughtful emotions. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years now and I know that’s just kind of how he is but it’s been really bothering me for the past few weeks when I think about it. Early in our relationship my cat jumped from the top of my bed and left big scratch marks down my back that’s caused me to start bleeding. The ONLY thing he said about that was “damn.” A while later I got incredibly sick and told him that I felt like I was going to start puking and he didn’t say anything about that. Literal radio silence over a Discord call and I just went to bed. Both of those times he showed concern afterwards but only after I brought up the fact that his indifference bothered me. This past weekend I told him that I felt some lumps on my scrotum(they were caused by inflammation from scratching and went away. Nothing to be concerned about now) but he just said, with a straight face, “oh well we’ll see how they are tomorrow.” Zero concern over something that would have caused me to deal out on my loved one’s behalf. He always has a straight face and monotone voice for anything that isn’t joking with his friends but it starts to hurt when I see a pattern of him just not giving a shit about any harm that comes to me. I’m very expressive and doting and grew up in a family that’s the same way so having such a cold shoulder that never knows what to say or do really bothers me. I’ve told him that he needs to be in therapy for me to consider talking our relationship seriously moving forward but I just don’t know how far I should look into this behavior. I just don’t know what to make of it but his lack of emotion for everything is starting to become a deal breaker for me. Does anyone have a similar experience or partner? Do you see yourself in him and know that it’s just a communication issue? Should I expect therapy to help him express emotions and empathy better? I just don’t know.