Some context: I (20M) am extremely uncomfortable with physical contact due to hyper-sensitivity, and have been this way since at least early teens. My parents know this, but still always insist on hugging me, putting an arm around me, laying hands on my shoulder etc whenever we see each other, no matter how many times I ask them not to.
The reason I'm posting in this sub is because they (my mum in particular) always act really hurt when I ask them not to hug me, like I'm being unreasonable by expecting them to respect my boundaries and I should just lighten up (they often tell me I need to "relax"). I can't count how many times I've told them it makes me uncomfortable, but they still insist I have to hug them whenever we see each other, and act like I'm being mean to them if I ever say no or pull away or ask them not to.
The thing that's prompted this post is, the other day me and my mum were together and she went to hug me and I asked her not to. She just laughed like she thought I was joking and hugged me anyway, so I pulled away and told her, firmly, to stop. She then got super upset and started talking about much it hurts her feelings when I won't let her hug me and how selfish I was being, even though I almost always do let her, despite how much I hate it.
Other times I've had my dad try and put his arm around me (again, after I had specifically asked him not to), and I pull away and he keeps trying to do it and I tell him "STOP", and he gets all "what, can't I hug my son?" and acts like I'm being uptight and need to relax.
I really don't think it's that unreasonable for me to want them to stop hugging me. I get that it might be hurtful for me to pull away when they try and hug me, but I've told them probably hundreds of times over the years that I don't like it so I don't get why they can't just stop. I don't know, AITA for continuing to not let them hug me when it makes them feel like that?