Married 37 years.
We were in an open marriage for 2 years, and I felt jealous of one partner starting 2 months ago. I tried to voice my concern, but I didn't outright ask him to stop seeing her. I'd mention that I was feeling jealous, but was trying to channel it into something positive. It came to a head a week ago, and I ended up in the psych ward for 24 hours😢. The marriage is closed and we won't try that again.
Because I broke down and told him everything I was feeling, imagining, and doubting, he's afraid of my reactions. He won't talk to me because he isn't sure how I'll react. We're coexisting, but not communicating. I have a therapy session at the end of the week.
I've been telling him that I'll be okay, but he's decided it's safer to not talk to me than say the wrong thing.
What do I do? If I cry, it proves how unstable I am. If I distance myself, it shows I'm emotional. I'm breaking inside. His protection of my feelings is actually making it all worse. He's my best friend and I miss what we had and what I know we can have.