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TL,DR - should I ask my daughter’s club coach about her plans for positions when she herself isn’t going to be there for our championship tournament in a few weeks? Would that be out of line. It’s not actually related to my daughter position but More so the setter who will not be there.

I am a parent of a 14-year-old volleyball girl player who accepted a regional position to play for a specific club even though she was offered national and American levels at different clubs. She was dead set on playing for the particular club, but this ended up being a grave mistake as she played with players far below her level and while there was a benefit to being one of the best on her team, I don’t feel like she had the best coaching to help her get to the next level. She’s an outside hitter and has really developed well, but is still hitting into the net and hitting out of bounds, but does have some great kills. She is one of the best servers on the team.

With all this said, the coach isn’t going to be there for the final championships. Neither is our only reliable setter. Last week she had someone play who wants to be a setter, but who cannot move fast and her feet are like concrete - we lost the entire tournament Because as you all know, setting is so important. There was another girl on the team who has set for us, but she doesn’t like to set. I am just having concerns or what the plans are for who is going to start during this championship especially in the coaches absence. Is it appropriate for me to have a polite and curious conversation with her about this without it perhaps limiting or preventing my daughter to get invited back to the club. The coach has said that my daughter will likely get an invite to play next season for a higher level team. I’d like to ask the coach about the plans for this championship game that she won’t be there but worried that she will see this ads an annoyance and it will reflect poorly on my daughter.

As another sidenote, this coach is not a great coach. She’s like 20 years old and does unprofessional things like share screenshots of what certain kids said to her with other kids on the team. She has favorites and yes, my daughter is one of the favorites, but I still think it’s unprofessional how obvious she is about it and how poorly she treats some of the other players.

Anyway, if anyone has advice about any of the above, I’d be open to hearing it. My daughter loves volleyball. She is not the best of the best hitters for her age, but I feel like she still has so much time to improve. Maybe I’m wrong about that?