Negging parent
My father who barely ever been in my whole 30yrs of life, started to Seek contact with me in the end of last year. Me & my sister was raised by my single mom & she has always been amazing. My mom Done everything for me & always supported me, even tho my life aint always been easy,. My dad on the other hand started drinking heavily, and acted childish & my parents divorced when i was like 4. I don’t remember any of that tho. Then his mother (my grandma) died, she was 92, and she wanted to leave some money for us children too but she died before signing any Will. So it ended with that my dad took all the money & gave us NONE. It was around 400K. During all these yrs he has never Done anything for me or my sister, he also HATES my sister cuz he claimed she stole his car, but he told her she could have it, & even gave her the keys. My sister even drove back the car when he accused her. Anyways, ive been talking with him on the Phone for the past months, maybe like 2-3 times a week. Even tho he got his bad sides he also has good sides, & my mom always said he is funny, but probably very insecure, thats why he also cant deal with any critics or issues. So ive been keeping an open mind to talk to him & to give him a chance, even tho i never rly expected anything out of it. & most of the time i talk to him is good. I also started helped him with investing money, since im a trader since 6yrs back, & i noticed that he probably lost most of the money, (the 400k) that he got from his mother. Since he only have like 5K left … he has been very glad for the help & so far his trading account been going better. But ive noticed how much he negs me when it comes to money, idk if it is cuz he lost so much money? He has been gamble on horse racing too & overall i feel like he don’t have the right mindset to ever be good with money or investing. But i still try to help him a bit. Also i have struggled a lot in life with having a job due to my adhd & hearing issues, but trading has been one of the few things ive been good at & that ive been able to work with from home, and it has slowly made me make more money than what my last job did, so now i trade only as an income. I also got offered a trading job recently for a trading website where i Will share my trades for commision & when i said that he was like ”but that Will never make you rich, it’s probably no money at all” .. hes so negative yet he has never ever been there for me when i needed anything., ”you don’t have any money” is something he can say out of no where
, but then after hes like oh don’t worry i just care about you. But at the end of the day i know he is a greeedy one. He has never even spended 50$ on me during my teen yrs. & the Only reason i keep contact right now is cus over all he is 73 yrs old, & i feel like he seeked contact with me cuz maybe he feels lonely & yes sometimes he have this sweet funny side, but idk i just feel worthless rn after all the negging i got today & Idk how to deal with it