I got emotionally attached to someone I never even spoke to, and I can’t move on
27M here. Going through a really weird emotional situation and I genuinely want honest opinions because I feel mentally stuck.
I was in a long-term relationship for around 5 years which ended about 1.5 years ago. Since then, my family has been looking for arranged marriage matches for me. Nothing really worked out and over time I think my confidence around marriage, relationships, and even myself became pretty weak.
A few months ago, I came across a girl’s profile through an arranged marriage app. I instantly liked her profile and sent interest. Later I found out that one of my close relatives was already talking to her seriously for marriage, so I backed off immediately without talking to her or involving families.
Now their marriage is almost fixed and I’m unexpectedly getting affected by it much more than I ever expected. The strange part is: I never even spoke to this girl. But somehow my mind got emotionally attached to the possibility of a future with her.
What’s making it harder is that I’m constantly exposed to updates, discussions, and family involvement around their relationship. I’m genuinely happy for them and I don’t have anger toward anyone, but internally I feel stuck in comparison and “what if” thoughts.
I’ve been crying a lot recently, struggling to sleep, overthinking constantly, and feeling emotionally exhausted. It almost feels like I attached all my hopes for future marriage/love onto this one imagined possibility.
Has anyone else gone through something similar where you became deeply affected by someone you never actually had a relationship with? How did you move on mentally from the imagined future more than the actual person?
Please be honest. I can handle direct opinions.