u/Existing-Day-5475

I've received feedback from friends saying that it's hard to love someone who is mentally unstable. I'm struggling. I know my partner loves me, I don’t question that but my mind tells me otherwise. No matter how much I fight it, I always end up thinking that I’m replaceable and that he just settled for me.

If you were my partner, would you want to know when I’m struggling, or would you rather be kept out of it? Is it hard for the other person to constantly give reassurance? Would it eventually become exhausting to fight your partner’s thoughts too?

Would it matter to you if your girlfriend had more past partners than you expected? Is it something that affects how you see her long-term, or does it not really matter as long as she’s loyal and committed now?

Also, what number even counts as “high” for you personally? Some say 3 is already a lot, others don’t mind double digits.