So...I'm 43, and after working with my therapist and a lot of self reflection I came out to my wife as pan and that I've been working through a lot of gender dysphoria through the years. She's been remarkably supportive, and kind of unsurprised. She knew it was an issue long before I was willing to work through it, it turns out.
Anyways...that's the challenge though. I'm married, have kids, and am 43. I am so used to identifying as a man but I know I lean very fem in my desires for both my body and attire. So... I guess I was wondering how the older folks handle it? I don't know how public with my immediate friends and family I'd go, but at the least I want to enjoy it in the safety of my home and maybe go from there. Where did you start, and how? What are your limits or...do you simply think we're just too old for it and I should soldier on and ignore it?
I wish I'd had time to figure this out in my youth, I was dumb and had a kid very young and just put it all on the backburner. Always there, always put aside because busy being a single dad for a decade. Stability brings time for reflection, but damn if this was *not* the mid-life crisis I anticipated.
Any advice and insight would be appreciated!