Hello I, a 24M found out that my gf 23F had a box full of love letters and gifts from her ex of 4 years. They’ve been broke up for 3 years. When asked why does she have them, she replied by saying.
“Memories”
I’m new to having a real relationship so I’m not sure if I handled this correctly or not, but I told her if she could get rid of it. It makes me uncomfortable knowing she still holds onto a box filled with love letters and pictures of her and him, while you are in a new relationship.
When she refused and didn’t see any harm in keeping the letters and pictures, I responded by saying. “If you want to keep those love letter from your ex, then you don’t really need me to keep saying romantic things to you. You can just go back into the box and read his words.”
She called me childish and refused to throw the box away. I’m not opposed to keeping gifts like b-day gifts, clothing etc. But gifts that holds romantic meaning are a bit much for me, so AITA in this situation?
More much needed context: I am a huge Star Wars fan and received a collectible figure of my favorite Star Wars character from a ex. And because my gf knows how much StarWars means to me she asked me to get of it because she rather I not hold on to something from a ex. I told kept it because he’s my favorite character not because my ex gave it to me, but I didn’t want her seeing it displayed with my collection and thinking otherwise, so I got rid of it.
And before the conversation/mention of the box she told me she still had nudes of her ex in her hidden camera roll and he the same of her. I asked her to delete them because it made me uncomfortable because they worked together in the same warehouse and after a long discussion she finally agreed.