u/ExcuseFantastic8866

We are considering starting Gottmans Couples therapy, and one thing that has thrown me off has been around Transparency / Secrets / Confidentiality.

My understanding of Gottman is that is strongly promotes openness and transparency, and that therapy shall be a no secrets space. I agree with this wholeheartedly.

However, we told that we would need to start by doing a Gottman questionnaire, where our answers would remain private with the therapist (which sounds like the opposite of this). Am I missing something?

PS: I get the pros and cons of each approach.