u/Exciting-Seesaw2122

Over the last few months I have walked in on my husband masturbating. First time he had taken himself off to the shed claiming he was taking something down there. This was during the day whilst I had the 3 kids with me in the house trying cook dinner. When I caught him he was sat in the chair, masturbating watching porn. I must add this was the day after we had sex. About a month or so after this I walked into the downstairs bedroom to find tissue and moisturiser next to the bed, he said he had been masturbating. Then a couple of nights ago we had gone out with a group of friends, nany babysit but the kids were in bed at our house. When we got back home later, he wanted sex but I never. I said goodnight and went to bed. So did he. We have an 8 month old so for co sleeping reasons/comfort etc we have been sleeping in seperate rooms. Anyway, at 3 in the morning my 4 year old was heard crying, I ran downstairs to him and he had an accident. As I had the baby in the bed with me, I said “come on let’s go to daddy’s room”. Thank god I was in front of him whilst walking into the room as my husband was on the bed naked, watching porn, tissue all on the floor, it was apparent he had already ejaculated as his penis was not erected and tissue on the floor but still watching it with his ear phones in. He obviously hasn’t head our child crying, despite the room being closer to his room than mine, with my room being upstairs! My child was crying so loud I don’t know how he never heard! I quickly closed the door so my child never seen and told him to go upstairs to mummy’s room and mummy will come up too. As he walked upstairs I opened the door that husband was in and expressed my frustration with the situation. Expecting him to have covered himself up, put his phone away, but no he was still sat there naked watching porn. I was in complete shock! How do I know if he has a porn addiction or if he has just been caught a few times…? He is still wanting to be intimate with me and admittedly my sex drive is not as high as is but we are still sexually active. I was also unsure why he was still awake at 3:00am, when he went to bed at 11:30pm. There has been issues in the last with alcohol drugs and i immediately thought he had been taking drugs on the night out and was still awake. He said he fell asleep and then woke up horny. Why does something just not feel right…