So I 19 F had this friend 18 F (were no longer friends) and she got upset with me for not being able to attend her bday party because I had money Issues. Some important mentions. I live with my mom and help pay rent and our phone plan. If I don’t pay my equal half we don’t get to live where we are or have our phones.
For context this all started in high school when we became friends sophomore year. We would make plans to hangout, and I had a strict mom and she would often change her mind on a whim, and I wouldn’t be able to go. My friend would get irrationally mad with me and belittle me and make me out to not care about our friendship till I would bawl my eyes out. And apologize again and again.
When I was about 17 I got into a car accident on the night of this girls birthday and the party of hers I was to attend that night. The guy (friend) I was in the crash with was telling his girlfriend att that he wasn’t with me and was with someone else. So when I tried to explain my absence my friend said I was lying. We’ve spoken about it and I gave her proof he was with me and that was that. I also had to miss her 18th because I didn’t feel like her and I were on good footing. Which I understand I have had an issue with showing up in the past but have since actively worked on myself and changed.
Extra context. I had a birthday lunch she was invited too but didn’t end up going because she was locked out of her room.
Her birthday is in January. I told her early December that I might not be making it to her birthday as in January I need to work at my second job full time to be able to make my bill payment that month. And that my boss was strict with missing work. My first full time job I was switching positions so they were holding back payments until things were settled in February. She freaked and I agreed to trying to get off. January came and 1-2 weeks before I let her know I was not to be able to make it. She freaked out and said I wasn’t a good friend and that she had other friends in collage who are struggling with money issues (they go to a well off state school) hers paid in full by her parents) and they’re still attending. I tried explaining that I had to work to make rent and pay my phone and car insurance. And she wouldn’t let it go that I was just mad she didn’t come to my birthday lunch (although still salty I admit that had nothing to do with this reason). Also HM her parents won’t allow her to get a job to focus on school and pay for all her wants/needs and when she lives with them has to pay nothing,
I feel like everything has been handed to her on a silver platter and she couldn’t sympathize with me because my life isn’t like that. So I ended the friendship. But sometimes think I’m wrong for that. Thoughts opinions?
This happened in January and it’s now may