Ghosted because I thought they weren’t that interested
I’ve been talking to a guy I met on an international dating app for about a month. We eventually moved to iMessage since we’re actually in the same country, just on opposite sides of it.
At first, he was very consistent, good morning texts, daily conversation, a couple calls, good night messages, etc. Last week I noticed our dating app thread disappeared. When I asked him about it, he said he deleted the app.
Right after that conversation though, his communication shifted. He stopped sending good morning texts, started messaging much later in the day, and the energy felt different overall. He would still send “good night” type texts sometimes, but it feels more like checking a box than genuine excitement to talk.
What’s confusing to me is that he’s currently between work assignments, so it’s not like he suddenly became insanely busy. The timing almost feels like I went from someone he was excited to talk to, to someone he messages once he’s bored later in the day.
Last weekend I was genuinely busy and couldn’t text much, and he seemed slightly annoyed by it. But at the same time, I had already started feeling myself pull back because the conversations were starting to feel more like a daily habit/entertainment ritual than real interest.
His last message to me was: “What did you do today? Anything to speak of?” I left it on read because it just felt so low-effort and maintenance-level to me. He hasn’t reached out again in 4 days.
Am I overanalyzing a normal shift after talking for a month, or was my gut probably right that his interest had already dropped?