I haven’t had a sexual partner in over 5 years but when I did have a partner I had so much insecurity surrounding the way my vag looked that I couldn’t relax and never got close to enjoying anything.
Maybe 6 months ago, I came across a tiktok of a woman expressing how important it is to look at your vag in the mirror. Then we can reference what is normal for you vs when something is wrong. So I started looking at my vulva around once a week. Then transitioned to looking in between the folds every now and then. After a few months it felt like I was just looking at my ear, no critical thoughts, just another normal part of me. Today I thought, she’s cute because she’s me🤔 Why was I so insecure before? Of course porn played a big part in my insecurity because I do have an outtie. But ugly people have bad personalities, not an outtie vag. It’s so disappointing how much negative energy i poured into myself over something that is normal and natural. I’m enjoying life a little more from here on