Is it just me or is the jungle twisted out there?
Maybe this is a rant, but I feel it needs to be screamed into the room anyways.
I came out about a year ago, I'm 39. I was in a long term relationship with a man until I hit 35. There wasn't really any sparks with him but I met him while I was recovering from a sexual assault & I was on antidepressants (not on them anymore). I assumed the lack of sparks was a trauma response... Not my sexuality. Yeah, it took the break up and a lot of self reflection to realize I was on my way to being out; when the assault happened (I caught serious feelings for a girl the year before my assault).
So I decided to start finally trying to date a few months ago and...
What the heck is with the men pretending to be lesbians on literally every platform? Anyways, the thing that drives me crazy is that I'm a masc, more of a soft masc but still... I start talking to this person and OMG do they not realize how they sound? I can usually pick them out in the first few messages... But some are sneaky and it takes a few days. Still, wtf is wrong with you? Do straight women pull this shit on gay men?
It's hard enough to meet someone point blank, let alone sifting through the bogus accounts... And the mind boggling number of polyamorous people looking for a third... Also super hard to pump the brakes on anyone in online dating; I want to put in block letters on my profile DEMI-SEXUAL, approach with caution.
So yeah, where the hell do people go to get real dates these days? I attend various queer events in my town and the surrounding ones; so I'm getting out there but yeesh.
Also being rushed into sex, I have never been roped into sex this fast in my life... Although credit where it's due it's a lot more satisfying than before I came out, but still... What the heck happened to just simmering and longing a bit before jumping in the sack?
Also I have a house, and the moment I even hint that I'm stable, oh-ah-bam they're talking about moving in... WTF?
So how do any of you sort through the men pretending to be lesbians (I'm not referring to trans), the 0-1000 we're going to grow old together women, the I wanna knock boots 2x a day starting now, and the we've just met but we're now an item types???
Also not sure if this is helpful or not but I'm in the Canadian prairies. So I'm not exactly in peak queer territory over here.