Hi,
I 23f feel a deep connection to a 25m recovering fentanyl addict. We met on Tinder in the early part of 2025 and could not be away from each other for more than 2 days at a time for around 6 months. We share the same perspectives, have the same sense of humor, and we're both active faith believers. I went to his church every weekend instead of mine and got relatively involved with his community and family. About 1 month into the relationship, he opened up about his experience with addiction, his family history (uncle with the same struggle and influence on him), and that he had been sober for 9 months (his longest sober period in about 4 years). Obviously, this was difficult with me to cope with, and I made my parents aware of the situation as I live with them as caretakers (dad's 80 with parkinsons and mom is 70 with a bad spine). Both of them were relatively accepting with the obvious precautions, but still wanted me to pursue relationships that made me happy. So with their blessing, I continued the relationship. I attended his support groups and bible studies (he lived in a house with other recovering addicts) and invited him to my family gatherings. All was good. Then, 5 months into the relationship, he called to let me know he had overdosed. I let my parents know, and they basically forbid me from seeing him. His dad also said he would prefer if we separated after the incident to demonstrate to him that actions have "consequences". So I did. I cut it off. It was miserable. I cried, drank, and didn't eat. Then 2025 December hit, and I drunkenly texted him and asked to meet up. We did, and he said he never wanted to see me again. I obliged. I didn't reach out and let him be. The reason I am posting this is that he texted me and wants to meet again next week. As soon as he texted me, I called, and we just talked like we had just been together yesterday. I desperately miss him, but I am wondering if this relationship should just not survive for the sake of both of us. Any advice?
TL;DR: 23F fell deeply in love with a 25M recovering fentanyl addict they met on Tinder. Relationship was intense and meaningful, but he relapsed and overdosed after 5 months. Her parents and his dad pushed them to break up, so she cut him off despite emotional pain. Months later, they briefly reconnected but he rejected her. Now he’s reached out again wanting to meet, and she’s unsure if restarting the relationship is healthy or if it should stay over.