M32 F35 Pregnant but not together
I started saying a guy last May (a year now). I was just leaving my husband and I have 2 kids from my marriage. My boyfriend and I stayed together but had issues until January. He broke up with me saying he needed space and it was a lot more than he thought having my boys around but that he wasn’t dating anyone new and we were essentially just on a break talking space from each other. In the meantime he got really weird but we still talked everyday and saw each other 3-4 times a week. I found out he was talkkkg to another girl and he swore he stopped. Flash forward to a month later I found out he still was so I did message her and ask her and she said they’d been dating since January. I told her we had been intimate and I thought him and I were also still essentially together. She said she was done with him. He was upset I did this but swore it was over. I ended up getting pregnant by him. Well come to find out he was still with her. I told her and she left. It created a ton of drama and he said he resented me. She reached out to me and said she was done she had no idea him and I still talked. Well over the last few weeks since I found out I was pregnant he wants the baby but he refuses to commit to me. He says he will be there in every way. He will support me. He will support the baby. He will have a family with me but at this time he can’t be with me. I explained having 2 kids already (their dad is barely involved) I don’t think I can do it. I tried to get him to understand that even know he swears he will be supportive it’s not going to be in the way I need. I can only do it if I have full everyday support emotionally, financially, physically. I’ve been going back and forth for 3 weeks and I’m so torn. I don’t think I can do this on my own and he thinks I’m only worried about getting back with him. He doesn’t understand the emotional load this will have on me and I just don’t know if I can trust him. Would you go through with this and believe he’d be supportive? Is it normal for a dad to say these kinds of things? I think he needs to strep up and commit and be a family if he wants the baby but he doesn’t see it as necessary. Is he just trying to have his cake and eat it too hoping she comes back?