I (19M) lost my virginity to my gf(21f) who has been sexually active since 14 and the discrepancy in our experience has been difficult for me, what are some strategies to overcome these triggering feelings?
My girlfriend(21f) and I (19M) have been in a long distance relationship for around 7 months now and I really enjoy her company. We bounce off each other and get along very well, something I have never experienced before, and we have committed to a long term relationship. We have met each others families and traveled from FL to CA and from CA to FL to be with each other. I am blessed to have flight benefits from my flight attendant sister which makes things so much easier. During the beginnings of our relationship we decided to become exclusive to each other and that’s when she decided to share her past sexual experiences which started at age 14 to 20 and included ten people. This hit me like a truck destroying the made up image of her in my head and bringing me down to earth. I have struggled since then with triggering thoughts and scenarios and the lack of experience on my part. I really love this girl and our circumstances feel perfect, she has always been upfront about her past and understanding of my feelings. Wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and what strategies they use to feel confident in the relationship. Thanks!