Maybe it’s heavier on me this week. I try not to let it take over my day to day. Talked to my mom today and she made a comment that she’s been waiting for her “mother’s day text” aka me telling her I’m pregnant. Caught up with a friend today and she was asking about our TTC journey. Went grocery shopping and the clerk wished me a happy Mother’s Day. I know I’m not alone but also wtf 😑🥹 I’m 5 DPO right now so who knows
Just need to vent. 34F, husband is 35M. We are actives and want to consider ourselves relatively healthy. TTC I guess officially since may 2025. I would say finally figured out timing by Jan 2026 (had an irregular cycle due to new job stress, death in the family, not knowing how to use OPK properly). Now it’s all finally starting to click.
I really dont think my husband understands TTC fully, like ovulation, fertile window and how time sensitive everything is. He gets up at 5:30 to go to the gym in the morning so no sex, then he’s too tired after work (he doesn’t even do anything laborious just an office job but has to commute 45 min each way), I try to keep him up to date with my OPK kits esp when they’re getting darker like hey we need to start having sex this day. I don’t think he gets it. My OPK tests are getting slightly darker, haven’t had sex in 5 days and I want to have sex to get rid of the old sperm idk if that even matters but he just says he’s too tired.
When I get negative test he says we just need to have sex every day then next cycle but when it comes time he’s so tired and it’s just the same thing over and over. Meanwhile all my friends and family got pregnant after 2-3 cycles.
Do I just need to sit him down and explain how important he is to this whole process? Make sure he understands the timing? I just feel like I’m the only one concerned with timing. I’m taking OPK, taking BBT… really trying to time it. We honestly don’t have sex enough to have it happen “organically” IMO.
TLdR: feel alone in the TTc process. During peak window My husband says he’s too tired to have sex and I just feel alone right now in this process, meanwhile everyone I know is getting pregnant