Another Herpes Dating Question
Hello,
I was diagnosed with HSV2 last year on my belt line. I had an outbreak a year prior to that but me and the doctor thought it was an ingrown hair. Granted, I did go after about a week because I thought something was wrong. Even when I got diagnosed, I went to 2 doctors and the first one thought it was an ingrown hair while I had an active outbreak. It's very mild symptoms compared to what I've read from others.
I've been reading through posts and watching videos I'm sure you've all seen. I've decided to get back into the dating scene, and I am on antivirals daily. I've met someone and we've been on 2 dates so far that have gone really well. The conversations are promising and I feel like I may finally disclose to someone that I have it.
We've talked about being intimate, but I'm not sure which route to go for disclosing. Some people say through text and some people say in person. I'm leaning more towards text so maybe their initial reaction won't hurt my feelings and it'll give them time to process, as well as there will be documentation.
I saw someone post on here to try a 21 question game and have one of the questions be would you ever date someone with HSV. To me, that seems to gimmicky and what if they say, "No", then I'm like oh, well I have it or just find another reason to end it.
I've seen people just ghost them because they were worried about the rejection and I can totally relate. If this person accepts me and is willing to be intimate then I'll be very happy or very sad if they say thank you but no thank you.
To me though, it's like why would someone risk it? Before I got it, I wouldn't have done that for someone else... maybe if I felt they were truly special, but I don't know how people can post it on their profiles. Me and this person have only been talking for a few weeks so maybe that's too soon? I know it's up to me, but I don't want to lead them on if it's a deal breaker.
Not sure where to turn to for advice because I haven't told anyone so I figured I'd ask the group for any guidance or personal stories about how to approach it.
Thank you