u/Every-Annual-1137

I have made an observation that men though want security of a committed relationship and family. They put all their energy into improving themselves. Whereas women are so feed off this idea of happily ever after and family. They do all of it as a default setting. I see men who are so invested in the relationship or marriage slowly lose interest or start atleast micro cheating and give reasons to justify but I see it less in women as if women are all in and doing all the loyalty, commitment and emotional work which gets men off the hook though they too want all of it but I feel women serve it on a platter and men just start looking for other goals as they already got relationship check mark. As women feel like they want a relationship all the time they are ready to put all their energy and efforts as if they are not okay if they don’t have this relationship. I also observe this in my work place where men don’t want to go homes as they have a new born or toddler and they don’t to share the work load. Where as women on the other hand are trying to finish off work early just to get 15 mins extra so that they could do some household chore or kid responsibilities. It feels like they are somehow default parent. I feel men get the advantage of having a relationship and kids with very minimal investment. Where as women do all the work just to fulfill their dream of happily ever after, they are ready to lose their body, lower their goals to focus on family. I think if women have not romantized love, relationships and family since their childhood they would not be a default partner and parent.