I want to clarify that I am new to getting into MBTI so I am a bit unfamiliar/unsure about some things but I’ve been studying about the cognitive functions and general MBTI and feel that I resonate most with ENFJ, mainly with how in social settings I tend to make sure my friends are comfortable and happy, I tend to put others feelings over my own, I have high empathy etc.
At the same time, I am *terrible* at making new friends (I do desire friendship but whenever I meet new people I feel that I put them off somehow without being able to figure out why. It’s a struggle to stick to friend groups cause they’ll always leave me behind even when I put in a lot of effort to socialise and connect with everyone) and I never take the leadership role in any friend group, more of the mediator than anything. I had no friends in school, and struggled to make friends in college until I got adopted into a friend group. I do tend to be very active when I actually have the friends, though I’m not a good planner about hang out spots and leave that to others, though I do pitch in and try to find the thing that’ll make the group happiest.
I can find being social very draining though and can become more introverted after expending all that social battery trying to take care of people and become almost anti-social irl though in those times I tend to immediately switch to online communities because I just don’t do well on my own.
I am also really unorganised, very spur of the moment kind of guy, can’t follow schedules at all. ADHD is 100% a factor in this, but even if I feel like I had control over my actions I don’t think I’d like to stick to something that consistently. I think my ADHD does impact how I think though as I get a lot of brainfog, so I don’t know how much of my problem solving is ”gut-based” vs “theoretical analysis”. It feels more to me like I go about things just on feelings but maybe I think it through more than I realise cause I do tend to think through what my friends thought processes are to make everyone satisfied and love to do deep dives into character analysis for example which shows I have some capacity to think in those terms, but I don’t feel like I do it in general.
Overall in functions I think the ones I resonate with are Fe and Ni, but not fully sure about Fi VS Ti and Se VS Ne, cause I feel like it really just depends on the situation.
If there needs to be more info on who I am as a person, feel free to ask questions to help type me better or affirm that I am ENFJ, I am more than happy to answer!