u/Evening_Border2252

I work four consecutive night shifts Friday through Monday, then I’m off for 10 days. My husband works 9–5 from home.

I know it seems like I am off a while, but when I come off my last shift, I struggle the first few days. Sleeping is off, I’m tired, and I don’t do much around the house during that time. Even so, I manage to make a couple of dinners or breakfast. But we eat out a lot.

My husband feels the household burden is unequal and gets frustrated that meals fall on him when I’m home.

We’re looking for a better system. Has anyone dealt with a similar schedule mismatch with their partner? What actually worked?