(32M) with epilepsy and bad memory & (32F) with adhd
Hi all, I've got a need for some advice here if anyone can offer!
I love my girlfriend to the end of the world and even planning to propose soon.
We both opposite lives, I am a bookkeeper who works fully at home due to my epilepsy and I am fully 9-5 Mon -Fri and she works as a ward nurse shifts all over the place and no idea how her shifts will be 6 weeks from now. Not necessary but explains our situation a bit more.
We have a bit of an awkward situation with our health situations which tend to end up causing conflictions where I am forgetting a lot of things, say for example she told me to turn the oven off in 30 mins and it just completely leaves my mind in 5 mins.
We end up having an argument and I end up really stressing her out to a point where she needs space, which I have learnt to give her and approach her when I feel we are an acceptable level, this is fine and I feel along as we are both allowed to calm down then things can continue and we have a nice cuddle in bed.
The situation which is what I am struggling with is anything conflicting that is carried overnight.
That I take my epilepsy meds before bed (as I have e nocturnal epilepsy) and then wake up completely forgetting that this whole thing happend and I should give her space. Instead of this I go in for a morning snuggle as normal and end up making things worse.
I have tried notes on the side of the bed to stop me and memos on my phone but I am not in a state to think to read these things and will just go for a cuddle before evening thinking about this and end up making things worse.
These arguments rarely happen we both function well together so this is me preempting by asking questions.
Can anyone offer any solution to making me remember how to not cause arguments when in sleepy morning state?