I dated men for ten years, and it's not until getting into my first wlw relationship that I realized just how fragile my sexual attraction might have been. I always knew I was bi and I never had any problems with general romantic feelings towards men. I had crushes, I enjoyed sex, but it always felt like my sexual attraction was very fragile. For example, if they had bad morning breath, I really didn't want to kiss them and it was hard for me to get aroused. Or if I asked them to clean something and they did a bad job, it was hard for me to get into the mindset for sex. Or objectively grosser things too, like if I knew they recently pooped, or if they had a stinky fart four hours ago and then wanted to have sex, I would just be downright grossed out and still thinking about the fart. A bit neurotic, I know.
I never really thought anything of it until my current partner. It's hard for me to be turned off. I'm pretty much always down, and never thinking about that other stuff. Anyone else relate?