u/Euphoric_Stay6618

i recently got into a relationship with my bf, and we both want to have Christ centred in our relationship in order to have a strong healthy connection as we keep building our relationship with God alongside with eachother. we both share alot of the same values and beliefs, he has an amazing character and his relationship with God is something i admire and how he’s willing to grow everyday to be a better man. we have had small miscommunications in our relationship that have took a small affect on us but we’ve always worked things through and prayed for one another. i know in every relationship it’s normal to go through those rough patches … however

i would like to know what are things as the woman in our relationship i should do for him, myself, and our relationship to strive? as in being a proverbs woman, and being willing to submit to him.. i really want this relationship for the long term and eventual marriage God willing. i just want to know the best advice to be the best person for him in our Christ filled relationship. this is my first serious christian relationship after not dating for a while

my bf has been really distant lately and i asked him why and he said when he feels he’s too wrapped up in giving someone his 100% attention he feels drained which makes him become a little distant. i understand that and i don’t want to force anymore conversations out of him, but i always notice if we have small miscommunications he always pulls away and pulls back his affection for me. and im somebody that deeply feels and notices those emotional changes and he never tells me if he needs space or anything if he becomes distant. i don’t want to annoy him or push him more by asking if there’s anything deep in his mind. him going quieter and pulling away from me without communicating it makes me start overthinking and i start to feel disconnected from him because of it. i find im very attuned to changes in tone, energy and affection so i don’t like feeling how big the uncertainty it is with him.

ik if he’s overwhelmed and drained he becomes distant and his affection just decreases bc of it, i feel that shift and i don’t know if it’s bc he’s unsure of me and pulling away which is why i feel like im going crazy. i know i should communicate with him about it but at the same time i don’t want to create any more heavy convos that overwhelm him on top of how he’s feeling rn

i don’t wanna add more to it, and make him feel more drained by asking him over and over so im kinda lost on what to do, because i don’t like it when something happens between us and he pulls away or acts more distant. it hurts

i had a post i posted a day or two ago and this is just a follow us from it because honestly i just feel lost and don’t really know what to do.

my bf had just told me before that he became distant because he felt drained from putting too much of his attention and energy into the relationship and neglecting other parts of his life, and I do understand that, but it still hurts. Ever since then I feel like things haven’t been the same. His responses feel slower, he feels less affectionate, and I can’t tell if he’s just trying to find balance again or if he’s emotionally pulling away from me. I keep overthinking everything and wondering if I ruined things somehow or if he’s scared to give me too much energy now because he doesn’t want to feel drained again. And I think what hurts the most is that I genuinely never wanted to overwhelm him or make him feel that way. I care about him so deeply and I’ve been trying to learn from everything and grow, but lately I’ve just been really emotional because I miss how close we used to feel and I’m scared things are changing.

I keep wondering if he’s just trying to find balance again or if he’s emotionally pulling away from me, and that uncertainty has been really hard for me. I also feel scared that I might have done something wrong or that I’ve overwhelmed him somehow, even though I never wanted to drain him or make him feel pressured. I care about him a lot, and I think that’s why this is affecting me so much. I miss how close we felt before. At the same time, I’m trying to learn from this and not let my emotions spiral, but I’ve been feeling really lost and stuck in my head lately

honestly i’ve been kind of having doubts about our relationship too and don’t know if he’s the right person for me. all of this started happening because i felt he wasn’t reaching that emotional depth and closeness that he wouldn’t give to me. if i would tell him i was feeling down he would give me some surface level type of response. i’ve been noticing that when i share how i feel, i sometimes still feel a bit emotionally alone in it afterwards. even when he responds and listens, it can feel like the emotional weight of what i’m saying isn’t fully carried forward or deeply engaged with, and i end up doing a lot of the processing internally myself. it’s not that he’s doing something wrong or that he doesn’t care, but more that the way we naturally process emotions feels different, and that difference can leave me feeling a bit disconnected at times.

does anybody else feel as though their partner just doesn’t reach you in the middle of that emotional depth that’s needed in a relationship?

i realize my boyfriend and i communicate, express and handle emotions way differently which is yes normal because we are both different individuals, however it becomes a problem if i feel like we can’t emotionally connect or feel close. i’m someone who feels things quite deeply and wants a partner who is willing to engage with me and my emotions in a consistent and present way. my boyfriend is a person who thinks more logically when it comes to certain situations and because of that it kind of makes me feel hurt.

i’ve been noticing that when i share how i feel, i sometimes still feel a bit emotionally alone in it afterwards. even when he responds and listens, it can feel like the emotional weight of what i’m saying isn’t fully carried forward or deeply engaged with, and i end up doing a lot of the processing internally myself. it’s not that he’s doing something wrong or that he doesn’t care, but more that the way we naturally process emotions feels different, and that difference can leave me feeling a bit disconnected at times.

i don’t know if this is something that’s emotional incompatibility? because we are both dating to marry and have only been together for a month and i’m starting to really see who he is and acts when it comes to conversations like these. i’m starting to get doubts but i also just want to hold on and see if things will improve, idrk what to do

i got into my second choice which is economics but my first choice was accounting and got waitlisted for that, i already accepted my econ admission but really want to transfer into accounting.

how hard would it be to transfer and what would i need to do in order to get in?