Are people in the lesbian dating community very particular about partners who have been divorced and are raising children alone? I'm curious.
After chatting with several women in the community recently, I suddenly started thinking about a question:
Does the combination of "divorced + raising children alone" automatically become a "high-difficulty mode" in the lesbian dating scene?
Because every time we talk about this, their reactions are particularly interesting.
Some people instantly become mature and start asking:
"Are you usually very busy?"
"Do you live with your child?"
"Do you have any time for yourself?"
It doesn't feel like a flirt meeting; it feels like interviewing a long-term business partner.
The funniest time was when a woman, after listening, said very seriously:
"Actually, I really admire you."
My inner monologue at that moment:
Oh no.
She's starting to look at me with "respect" instead of "love."
But honestly, raising children alone hasn't made me tragic.
On the contrary, it has made me more emotionally stable, more mature in my actions, and clearer about what I want.
I've noticed that adult dating is truly different from dating when you're younger.
Before, people were simply asking, "Do you like me?"
Now, they also consider:
"Can I fit into your life system?"
So I'm curious—do people in this industry really care so much about these practical factors?
Or is this just how dating is for adults?