me and my boyfriend have been together for five months almost six recently, we have had some issues. recently, I’ve been hanging around with my boyfriend‘s friends. Majority of them are girls. I’m fine with my boyfriend having friends that are girls. In the past I’ve been fine if my partner has friends that are girls. But this thing that made me confused. My boyfriend flirts with his girl friends. Weird I know right? When I saw his phone my heart dropped. In past relationships Ive had partners leave me for other people. I’ve had partners cheat on me with girl “friends”. I saw messages between him and his girl “friend”
saying flirty things like I wanna kiss you and about touching. It made my heart hurt later that night I had confronted him I was angry and sad I was visibly crying telling him why was he doing this. I struggle with BPD it’s very hard for me. He had told me that it’s all jokes and he only loves and cares for me i yelled at him countless times saying it doesn’t matter flirting with girls is cheating I said I dont care for what he had to say. He started crying saying he didn’t want me to leave him and that he was sorry. I felt bad I comforted him he did the same to me we cuddled. A few weeks past we are doing good no problems. Just to find out yesterday while I was texting a group chat with him and his girl “friend” him saying “ I want to kiss you all” “threesome?” it made me uncomfortable. even if it was a joke that wasn’t ok for him to be saying Especially at our age and the fact we have have a healthy relationship. The girl “friend“ we have had problems in the past with her liking him. He had told me he didn’t like her but then said she had changed and he was friends with her again. i didn’t want to be a jealous girlfriend but why the hell would you be friends with her knowing she likes you? especially saying things like kissing etc. I had saw on her story she said he’s the love of my life I didn’t want to jump to conclusions. He isnt home he is working so I texted her. I screenshotted her story asking her is this about my boyfriend she had told me yes my heart dropped I felt even more sad. he was encouraging it by saying those things in the group chat. I had told her to be honest with me if she still likes him she said she did but not as much as she did last time I started crying. She has a boyfriend she told me she felt bad and she was sorry I ignored it I wasn’t mad at her I was mad at my boyfriend And well her for flirting back. i told my friends they told me to break up with him. He isn’t home yet. am I a bad girlfriend or do I have a reason to be acting like this.