Why did you choose to be OAD
I am 8 weeks postpartum (so take all of this with a grain of salt, I know I am very fresh into motherhood) and so thankful to have a healthy and happy baby. I feel like I could be OAD but have small moments wondering if I would regret it. My husband wants more but ultimately he would honor my decision. I know I don’t have to decide right now but thinking through birth control options and family planning
Reasons I could be OAD:
-I had relatively normal pregnancy and delivery but it makes me sad to think of me missing out on almost a whole year of my sons life because I can’t operate at 100%
-I am a high stress person and when I see people with any more than 2 kids their lives seem so chaotic and stressful (even 2 seems stressful to me sometimes)
-I want my son to get our full attention. Rocking him to sleep the other night I got sad thinking about if he ever had to share us with another baby (although I know I would love them the same- I hope this makes sense)
-I want to spend time with my husband and the more kids you have it seems the more you have to “divide and conquer” kid and household duties
-my son has been a very easy baby so far, what are the odds I get this lucky twice??
Reasons I’m afraid I would regret it:
-I think sibling relationships can add a lot of richness to a persons life and wouldn’t want my son to miss out on that
-thinking of my son grieving by himself one day makes me sad
I’d love to hear other peoples perspectives and experiences!