u/Euphoric-Asparagus33

I'm a newer SAHM. I quit my job a year ago because we were having lots of issues with securing childcare while we both worked. I had a great job that paid well and had lots of responsibility that kept me fulfilled. Ever since I left my job, I feel a lot of resentment from my husband for not being an ideal stay at home parent in his eyes. He expects a spotless home, chores always complete, kids not screaming when he's working from home, to name a few things. I am in no way perfect. I do my best to keep up with the chores and my kids busy. I drive my son to and from half day preschool every morning. I always do dishes and laundry. Sometimes there is some leftover if we have a lot on certain days, but I'm always doing something. I make all of the doctor's appointments, maintenance appointments, I pay the utilities for our home. I plan birthday parties for the kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. I find myself more productive in the afternoon than right in the morning. There are some days where I just cannot motivate myself to clean or go out somewhere with the kids. My husband sees this is as lazy. It makes me feel worthless. It is especially ironic since he also has ADHD and doesn't understand how I feel. I have two kids 4 and under and I am pregnant with our third. On top of this we are listing our house and we are both doing different tasks to ready the house to sell and I am on top of looking for houses to buy for when we sell. Maybe I'm just complaining for nothing at this point. I just feel like he is always so negative and looks down on me for not doing enough. I have talked to him about it on more than one occasion and he does not change.