So I(NB29) have a friend I'll call Lark (fake name). Lark(F40s) and I have been friends for about a year maybe a bit longer, though it feels like a life time. We met through work. Throughout my friendship with her Lark has told me about her abusive Ex ill call Dick(M50s). Dick has done some horrible things to Lark. Including hiting her broke her nose and either he or his mother poisoned her! Obviously I don't know all the details but regardless it's bad. Lark had left Dick before we had become friends and Dick has harassed messaged called and even hacked her devices in the time I've known her. However for some reason I don't think I'll ever fully understand two weeks ago Lark began to talk to her ex again. Lark had even gotten back with him and brought Dick to her house. Lark had said Dick had changed and while I wasn't sure she seemed happy and honestly Dick was really helping her with housework and even helped Lark with her mentally disabled Aunt who lives with Lark. Today when I got off work and Lark came in she was crying and saying she kept having panic attacks. Dick had kept her up ALL NIGHT calling to make sure she was asleep??? Lark called Dick this morning asking him what his problem was. Dick pretty much laid it out that he was with her because he knew Lark loved him even though he didn't love her but he'd be find with that cause things were easier when they were together. I just want advice on what I can do. I love her like a sister and I just want to be there for her the best way I can be. I've only been in one relationship myself and it wasn't exactly abusive. I believe she's comming over when she gets off work in 8 hours. I just dont know i hate Dick for putting her through this! Please any advice is much appreciated.
u/EtherealJester420
So I have a friend I'll call Lark (fake name). Lark and I have been friends for about a year maybe a bit longer, though it feels like a life time. We met through work. Throughout my friendship with her Lark has told me about her abusive Ex ill call Dick(M50s). Dick has done some horrible things to Lark. Including hiting her broke her nose and either he or his mother poisoned her! Obviously I don't know all the details but regardless it's bad. Lark had left Dick before we had become friends and Dick has harassed messaged called and even hacked her devices in the time I've known her. However for some reason I don't think I'll ever fully understand two weeks ago Lark began to talk to her ex again. Lark had even gotten back with him and brought Dick to her house. Lark had said Dick had changed and while I wasn't sure she seemed happy and honestly Dick was really helping her with housework and even helped Lark with her mentally disabled Aunt who lives with Lark. Today when I got off work and Lark came in she was crying and saying she kept having panic attacks. Dick had kept her up ALL NIGHT calling to make sure she was asleep??? Lark called Dick this morning asking him what his problem was. Dick pretty much laid it out that he was with her because he knew Lark loved him even though he didn't love her but he'd be find with that cause things were easier when they were together. I just want advice on what I can do. I love her like a sister and I just want to be there for her the best way I can be. I've only been in one relationship myself and it wasn't exactly abusive. I believe she's comming over when she gets off work in 8 hours. I just dont know i hate Dick for putting her through this! Please any advice is much appreciated.
So I have a friend I'll call Lark (fake name). Lark and I have been friends for about a year maybe a bit longer, though it feels like a life time. We met through work. Throughout my friendship with her Lark has told me about her abusive Ex ill call Dick(M50s). Dick has done some horrible things to Lark. Including hiting her broke her nose and either he or his mother poisoned her! Obviously I don't know all the details but regardless it's bad. Lark had left Dick before we had become friends and Dick has harassed messaged called and even hacked her devices in the time I've known her. However for some reason I don't think I'll ever fully understand two weeks ago Lark began to talk to her ex again. Lark had even gotten back with him and brought Dick to her house. Lark had said Dick had changed and while I wasn't sure she seemed happy and honestly Dick was really helping her with housework and even helped Lark with her mentally disabled Aunt who lives with Lark. Today when I got off work and Lark came in she was crying and saying she kept having panic attacks. Dick had kept her up ALL NIGHT calling to make sure she was asleep??? Lark called Dick this morning asking him what his problem was. Dick pretty much laid it out that he was with her because he knew Lark loved him even though he didn't love her but he'd be find with that cause things were easier when they were together. I just want advice on what I can do. I love her like a sister and I just want to be there for her the best way I can be. I've only been in one relationship myself and it wasn't exactly abusive. I believe she's comming over when she gets off work in 8 hours. I just dont know i hate Dick for putting her through this! Please any advice is much appreciated.