I really think we should take a look at how Western media portrays success in relationships.
One of the most recurring themes in James Bond movies is that the female agents working for the Soviets in most cases somehow decide to betray their country because of how much they are in love with James Bond.
What I'm trying to describe is having relationships based on lies & disingenuity backfires for everyone.
Imagine you're someone who makes female CIA agents talk dirty to you while you're reading The Communist manifesto.
It sounds funny, but how do you think they're gonna feel.
It sounds great in some Hollywood script, but imagine this. You're there to do a job lying to someone you don't necessarily like & he just thinks like he's some sort of a king. If you were her, would you want this person to be happy in life? & why should you?
& this is basically what is framed as success in relationships according to Western media. Using someone else for your own pleasure & getting the most out of this other person, that doesn't even know who you are or what you're about.
It's absolutely not a WIN/WIN relationship.
This is what they keep selling us. Relationships based on making the other person fall in love head over heels while not caring about who you really are (Rather the image you propagate) & being a disingenuine person overall that is loved but not understood whatsoever.
It's always about the girls James Bond seduces but never about him. There's a reason why he never really marries any of them.