My boyfriend [19M] doesn’t put in effort into our relationship.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. We met when we were 16 and started dating at 17 during our junior year of high school. So we are both 19.
I don't really know where to start this off so I'll lay out our current situation. He works all the time so we don't really have time to do anything. He starts work at 6-7am and gets home at around 7pm. He comes over after work and all we really do is lay down and have sex.
Our relationship wasn't always like this, though. This past summer was pretty fun, we went out every weekend, he bought me flowers every week and we were just at a better place than where we are now. We have been stuck in our current routine for about 5-6 months as of right now.
I have constantly voiced my opinions and feelings to him, and I have told him numerous times that I want to go out even if it is just to eat or get something to drink and walk around somewhere. I have constantly told him that I want to be told to get ready and he'll pick me up at said time and to not always be asked what I want to do. I want to be able to be feminine and not have to tell him what to do all the time. He promises to try but we always end up at my house not doing anything because he never has money and when he does he always spends it on subscriptions or buying food for himself.
I don't want to sound like a spoiled brat or anything, but it couldn't hurt him to plan something once in a while and take me out for dinner or take me to a carnival or plan a date. I don't want something extravagant just something thoughtful but he never has money.
I have constantly voiced my opinions and feelings to him, and I have told him numerous times that I want to go out even if it is just to eat or get something to drink and walk around somewhere. I have constantly told him that I want to be told to get ready and he'll pick me up at said time and to not always be asked what I want to do. I want to be able to be feminine and not have to tell him what to do all the time. He promises to try but we always end up at my house not doing anything because he never has money and when he does he always spends it on subscriptions or buying food for himself.
I don't want to sound like a spoiled brat or anything, but it couldn't hurt him to plan something once in a while and take me out for dinner or take me to a carnival or plan a date. I don't want something extravagant just something thoughtful but he never has money. He makes good money too; he makes 1k a week.
I have really grown to love this boy, and I try to be understanding, but it’s hard when I am begging for things that should be a given in a relationship, especially out of high school.
I also want to emphasize that my issue isn't only about his lack of money: it is his lack of effort. I constantly have to remind him to do things for me. He also always seems to have excuses ready for whenever I bring anything up. I could really use some advice, thank you!