Ranting into the oblivion, but need to get the things my MIL has done/currently does off my chest.
- announced my baby’s name on Facebook after our gender reveal
- posted pictures of her, my husband, and FIL holding my baby at the hospital. None of me with my baby.
- calls my daughter her baby or our baby.
- when we met about her watching my daughter once a week while I’m at work, she referred to giving her a bottle as “nursing” her
- when she was a few months old, she would take her away into another room if she started crying or fussing while holding her and said she needs to get used to other people soothing her
- she comes to us once a week since she’s an additional 45 minutes away from both our jobs. She will clean, do our laundry, put things away in the wrong spots, move things in my house, etc. after we’ve repeatedly told her that it wasn’t necessary and all we need her to do is love on and watch her granddaughter. She claims she’s “bored” and “can’t sit still”
- I got home from work and held my arms out to hold my daughter and my MIL said to her “it’s okay, I guess you can go to your mama”
- had dinner plans and asked my BIL and SIL (childless) what time worked best for them and not us, so they scheduled a dinner too close to bedtime. I said that won’t work for us so I’ll stay home with my daughter. My MIL didn’t understand why she couldn’t just nap in my arms or fall asleep in the car on the way home. She’s 7.5 months old with a regimented bedtime routine and we just got on a consistent nap schedule that I worked really hard to achieve!!
- she set up a room for my daughter at her house, but hasn’t bought any toys or books so we have to pack a bag of toys every time we go over there. Her “room” over there is full of clothes and swimsuits that she hasn’t ever worn. She also bought 3 pack n plays for her house?
- she never asks to take my daughter anywhere, she just makes the plan. In my opinion, it’s my baby so she should at least ask “is it okay if we go to the park today” instead of “I’m taking her to the park today.” She’s under 1 so I feel like it’s my right to know where my baby will be when I’m at work. She made plans to take my baby somewhere without my input one day and I told her in the future I need to be involved in the decision of where she’s going and she said “I shouldn’t have even told you! It would’ve been fine!” She thinks she’s going to be taking her to the pool and on “field trips” in the summer, but I want my husband and I to be the ones to take her to these fun places. Also, she’s not taking her near any body of water without us!
- she never sends any pics or videos of my daughter to us while she’s watching her. I texted her one day and asked if she could start sending some while I’m at work since I miss her and she sent 3 with her in it🙄. When I get home she tells me all about the videos she sent to my FIL. Why are you not sending them to me, too?!
- having Mother’s Day at her house and she expects us to come over for the whole day. My husband and I both work full time and we use our weekends to rest, spend time with our baby, and prepare for the following week. She also got to choose what’s for dinner.
Some of these are petty, but I’m slowly going crazy. That’s all.