I had a custody trial in mid January (my ex moved closer and requested more parenting time despite only exercising about 50% of their current time - this continued the past 9 months of living closer. I requested to decrease their parenting time to make our plan align with reality. Also other than a 6 month period several years ago, I've been in temporary orders for SEVEN years .)
We are still waiting on that custody order from January. In between February and May, my ex missed all of their February parenting time and all of their May parenting time. In February they gave me 2 days notice. In May they gave no notice, just never showed up and never heard from them. I didn't reach out to inquire because my child is happy when they cancel/no-show.
I wanted to submit this as supplemental evidence to the judge since I dont have a final order yet but my attorney says that isn't possible. This has happened several times though - while waiting 4-5 months for orders, more relevant stuff happens, but I can never submit it to the court. By the time I am allowed to "use it in court" it is a few years later and the judge says it is too long ago to be relevant.
Am I missing something? I am told to document missed visits/months, but both attorney and judge say I can't use them.