GF said she cant do LD. (17 and 19)
Hello, so there was a pretty emotional argument on Thursday and Friday.
On Thursday my girlfriend still said she loves me and even said she felt bad that I thought she wanted to break up at. The next day she suddenly told me the long distance is becoming too hard for her mentally, that she feels exhausted emotionally, overwhelmed by being on the phone and pressure, and that she wants to be alone.She never said anything because she tried to "shine through all of it". She also said her mom told her she doesn’t want us to meet.
She asked me why I can’t understand her feelings and said she feels mentally drained and terrible emotionally.
The confusing part is that before all this happened she was still very loving, saying “I love you”, scared of losing me, etc. She never actually clearly said “I’m breaking up with you”, which makes this really confusing for me.
I’ve also realized I made mistakes: I became too emotionally dependentI, constantly needed reassuranceI, pushed too much when I was scared of losing her, I projected my past betrayal/trust issues onto our relationship, some of my behavior probably felt controlling or overwhelming to her
Friday was also her birthday. About a week before everything happened I had already sent her a very emotional gift package. It arrived yesterday and she did accept it, open it and text me a bit about it.
She also: never blocked me, still has me in her bios/relationship stuff, still uses our shared couple app with me
But today I texted her “I hope school is not too exhausting today” and she didn’t even read it. So I honestly have no idea what to do right now. Should I tell her that I realized my mistakes and that I understand why she felt overwhelmed by my behavior, or would that just put more pressure on her at the moment?