!! I DONT KNOW HOW TO ADD MORE THAN ONE FLAIR BUT THERE IS DIRECT MENTION AND A SMALL NON EXPLICIT DESCRIPTION OF SELF HARM IN THIS POST !!
>!this is my first time posting, I don’t use this site often I just didn’t know where else to go. if there is a more appropriate subreddit that can be used on the browser Reddit where this can be posted, please tell me about it.!<
>!so back on topic, I think I found out about my friends self harm today and I genuinely don’t know what to do about it. they were wearing a t shirt today—something they don’t normally do—and I caught sight of small red cuts on one of their wrists, and I ended up staring at it for a minute because I didn’t know about this. they caught me staring and apologised before hiding their arm (the cuts were only on one arm) away for the rest of the time they didn’t have a jacket on. the rest of the day went pretty fine and they seemed in good spirit, but I know many people who harm themselves are like that.!<
>!I want to apologise to them for staring at their arm and make it clear that I didn’t mean to and that I’m also here for them, and the draft text message will be transcribed at the end. I’m mainly just looking for advice on how to support them and how to properly bring up this topic in the message. I know that some of my friends also struggle with their mental health, but this is the first friend that I am quite close to that this has happened to. !<
>!sorry if this seems rambly, it all happened today and we are both in our early teens so I’ve never had to deal with this situation before. !<
>!the text:!<
>!so about earlier today, it’s kinda been bugging me and I want to make it clear it’s not because of your wrist. it’s because I don’t want to make you feel like I was being judgmental or make you more conscious about it. I didn’t know about this previous to today, and I am really sorry for staring for so long.!<
>!i just want you to know that if you need to talk I am here. It sounds really cliché, I know, but I do genuinely mean it. Even if you text me at two in the morning, responding would be the first thing I do when I wake up.!<
>!if you want me to delete this message after you read it, I will. I will also completely drop this topic after this message unless you bring it up with the purpose of wanting to talk. I just needed to say this.!<
>!also if I’m completely misinterpreting this I’m so sorry and will delete this message anyway.!<
>!all pieces of advice are greatly appreciate.!<