u/Entertainment-33 — reddlx

How do you bond with and get to know someone you haven’t met before? My half brother. I finally found him.

Our dad just pretty much ditched my mom back then and basically pretended I did not exist all of his life. Paid child support a handful of times so he wouldn’t go to jail. Never met or spoke to him.

I looked for my dad for years at random times but gave up after a while. Couldn’t find anything about him online until he died, he’d been going by his middle name the whole time go figure.

I Finally got into contact with my half brother I’ve been looking for for years, just couldn’t figure it out til I made a fb post in a local group, he’s nice, seems open to getting to know me, he said his dad was barely there for him. & was an alcoholic.

His ex wife said she wishes she’d have made our dad see me but in the end everything happens for a reason.

I’m relieved to know that my brother doesn’t hate me, all these years I thought he did. But turns out he didn’t even know I existed until a year after birth father died.

Ancestry.com sparked my brain to find him again now I have found a few cousins who would like to meet me, only issues is IM SO AWKWARD 😕

I hope they like me.

We all have big heads, it’s great lol

I’m friendly my humor is awkward obviously with the big heads comment.

What do I say? What do I ask? How do I begin a familyship after not knowing him these years?

My stepdad has been telling me for years I need to find my brother so our kids don’t have kids together lol.

I am tempted to text him again but have not. I don’t know what to say. I have a bad habit of rambling and he says he does also lol so we’re obviously related