Baby name- chosen by ex
Hey everyone, I need some insight here. My current partner wants to name our baby (due in August, my 2nd his 3rd) after his grandmother who raised him. This is if the baby is a girl.
I like the name itself, I have no issue with that. I knew her for a couple of years before she passed and I understand the special bond they shared. She was a great lady.
The issue- this was a name he and his ex chose to use for a girl when they had their child. He's a boy, so that didn't happen. This came out, he was not planning on telling me. His ex and I got along well initially (or so I thought) but unfortunately that has devolved. She doesn't like how close I've gotten with her child (we have him 50/50) and has brought it up several times that I have no right to have a relationship with him. (there are other issues, that being the biggest. My partner is on my side with that one, he knows the only reason we are close is because I am kind to him and treat him as my own. I never put her down as she does to me and I place their relationship above ours, as I would want someone to do with my babies should the situation be reversed).
Becuase of all this, I have major mixed feelings. I definitely have some resentment as it feels like she would have some hand in naming my child, and the fact that he wasn't going to tell me is also really bothersome.
That said, I love my partner, like the name, and understand what it means to him, and I do not want to undercut that oe hurt him.
What would you do?