How do I be more careful and conscientious?
I (31f) feel stupid asking, but I have been told by partner (30m) that I need to be more careful and I genuinely want to but I don’t know how. I’ll come up with a plan and it will go well for a while but even when I remember which dishes can’t go in the dishwasher and fold the laundry right when it comes out and pull off the little thoughtful gestures, I’ll slip and drop something or I’ll get overwhelmed and say something I don’t mean. This morning I left the door to the bedroom open even though I know as soon as I get to work that I should have closed it so that he doesn’t get woken up by me getting ready for work. I have genuinely spent a good bit of time practicing folding when he brought up that his pants were always wrinkly and I have that pretty much down to habit, but it’s like there are 50 tiny tests that I have to pass every day and if I focus too hard on one, the others get worse. For a long time I was defensive about it and thought that I was being held to an unfair standard, but now I think I do genuinely need to figure this out both for the sake of my relationship, but also because I want to be a functioning human. I have ADHD and take medication for it (I know it isn’t an excuse, just some context) but I want to be a better person and a better partner. Does anyone have any book suggestions or styles or therapy that I could try to become more deliberate and conscientious?